Finding a new home as a single parent is hard!

Saturday, 29 April 2017


I have so much going on at the moment. My Ex has decided to sell the house that me and the kids are living in and although at first I was angry,  I have decided that a fresh start is exactly what I need and have been thinking positively and trying to find somewhere to live that won't completely disrupt the kids lives. I would love to stay local to avoid them moving schools and us leaving all of our local friends and support network.

It wasn't until now that I realised how hard it is for Single parents to start afresh and make a better life for themselves. I have updated my application for council housing but since we technically have a roof over our heads at the moment, we are bottom of the list for priority being housed and it could take up to 5 years (or potentially longer) to be housed this way. 



So the next option is private renting. It amazes me how expensive it is to privately rent compared to the average monthly mortgage payment. That isn't the biggest issue though. With having young children, it is hard to get a job that could pay for rent and also cover the childcare costs for while you are at work. My blog brings me a monthly income and with Elsie still at home full time until September and Zach only doing part-time, I haven't really got the option to go out and get a regular job. This means I will have to rely on DSS (housing benefit) to help top up my income and help cover rent. So far every single house I have attempted to apply for, through a range of different estate agents, I have been completely turned down as 'this landlord does not accept DSS'. 

What kind of world do we live in, when people are shunned and discriminated against for needing to accept help. Do we think all people on benefits are going to refuse to pay rent and destroy houses? There are so many situations in which people from all walks of life may need to claim benefits at some point. Surely a tenant receiving help from housing benefit is less likely to fall behind on rent? No wonder so many people stay in unhealthy and even dangerous relationships as they know they have no other alternative. 

At the moment I have no idea quite what I can do except keep hoping that something will eventually come up with a landlord who will accept us. I am angry that there must be so many women (and men) in similar situations trying to provide a safe home for their family and hitting obstacle after obstacle. If only landlords would look at a persons situation and decide on a case by case basis rather than dismissing people for the sheer fact that they are having to accept financial help.

I am not happy at the prospect of having to claim benefits. I have worked since I turned 16 and continue to work now despite having three children to solely care for. My family all work and always have done and I will bring up my children to work hard for what they have. All I want is for them to learn these lessons whilst living in a secure home surrounded by those they love. Is it really too much to ask for?

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19 comments

  1. Hopefully you will find a home. I used to be on benefits too, never used to like it, but it was necessary. Welfare is there for people who need it. I find it really bad that some landlords refuse to accept those who are on housing benefit. Benefit money is as good as anyone elses

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  2. I hope you find somewhere. Definitely check out local housing associations too, they can help!

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  3. I hope you find somewhere to live soon, can't imagine how tough it is for you at the moment but a fresh start is definitely what you need x

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  4. oh fingers crossed you will find smoething no point rushing into it though the right one will come along when the time is right

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  5. I"m sorry you are having such a hard time finding a house to rent. There really shouldn't be discrimination against those using benefits. I hope you are able to find someone to accept you soon so that you can get started on your fresh start.

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  6. Housing is such a difficult subject. I hope it all works out for you. Private renting prices are absolutely extortionate. I'm sure it'll all come together and you will find somewhere perfect.

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  7. Oh hun I am so sorry to hear about what you are going through right now with your ex but like you said a fresh start might be worth it. I hope you will be ok, here to talk if you need it x

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  8. I'm sorry to hear what you have had to go through and that you are struggling to find somewhere that you can live. It's a shame that the world is the way it is and people needing benefits are treated like that. I hope you find something soon.

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  9. I hope you find somewhere, renting is just astronomical and I don't know how people are able to do it these days. Good luck x

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  10. Sorry for what had happen but I'm sure you'll definitely find a good home for you and kids. There maybe some good things are bound to happen. Just be positive.

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  11. I am so sorry to hear that your husband is looking to sell, I hope you find somewhere as you're right it's really hard now x

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  12. Sorry that you are going through this, but it's great that you are seeing the positives of it and looking forward to a new start.

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  13. Sounds like you are going through the mill at the minute. Hopefully you will settle soon and have a fresh start :) x

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  14. I hope you will find a home soon. I rent as well, I wish I could buy so that my high rent transforms into a low mortgage but unfortunately the deposits required by the bank are so high that I don't know if I'll ever afford it, as a single person myself.

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  15. Fingers crossed you find somewhere soon with the help you deserve. And that fresh start :)

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  16. So sorry to hear that you had a hard time to find a renting house and I wish you find someone that help you and never leave you.

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  17. It broke my heart reading this because I understand the situation you're in. I know you don't want to have to claim benefits but there's no shame in it; you do what you need to do for you and your kids. I hope you will be able to find another house thats within your budget soon xxx

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  18. I hate moving around and can't imagine how frustrating this is for you. I have faith that something will turn up for you guys. My mum had the same trouble when I was little strangely enough. You'd think they'd have made things easier by now.

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  19. It must be so frustrating for you, I really hope something comes up very soon.

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