Dating As A Single Parent?

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I was 17 the last time I was 'dating'. Fast forward to now, I am nearly 26, have three children and the world of dating is totally different. Not that I would actually know about the literal dating side of things. I have recently joined a couple of dating sites and I don't know whether it is hilarious or tragic. 


The first site I joined was Plenty Of Fish or POF. The first week I was inundated with messages from guys I had no interest in. Clearly all the sharks looking to feed on the new fishes. Anyone who knows me, knows I cannot be horrible to people. So I panicked and hid. I did not reply to one message and that was the end of that. 

About two weeks ago, I went on my first night out as a singleton. I then made the mistake of not remembering I was out with my loudest and most embarrassing friend. As much as I love her I am scarred for life. My whole night was pretty much me trying to fight the world's worst anxiety attack while she laughed at how uncomfortable I was but hey, my friends were entertained! Somehow it hasn't put me off and am planning to go out and dance the night away again soon.

This weekend I joined Tinder. I had so far avoided Tinder for fear of rejection. I have realised a few things about myself thanks to Tinder. My standards are way too high. I have probably 'liked' 30 guys out of a possible 10 million. There are so many people I know on Tinder and that makes me happy and cringe at the same time. Exchanging screenshots with friends has made my week. I definitely cringed when I saw my Ex on there. I got my first match on Tinder yesterday. He promptly unmatched me. Men who use Tinder are probably not after Single Mums. I think my Single Mum bio pushed him over the edge. 

How do single parents even do it?! Suggestions on a postcard please!

So 5 months into the single life and I am killing it. I have finally lost a load of weight. I am finally happy with the way I look. I LOVE having my own space and am genuinely loving being Me again. I am reconnecting with friends and having a social life and I have got back one of the best things about being single, the chance to talk about prospective guys with girl friends. 

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  1. Well done on your weight loss! It's great that you feel happy with the way you look - I'm sure that'll be a huge step forward in starting to date again.
    Alana x

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    1. Thank you! It started off completely coincidental but now I am working hard at sustaining it! It has been a while since I have felt this confident x

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  2. I hate that site Plenty Of Fish, it's full of creepy people. A lot of the messages you get from people get really aggressive if you don't message them back. My friend has said exactly the same thing too, he told me he's had people getting very angry and annoying when he doesn't message them back. You are going to get weirdos everywhere, but POF seems to be full of them. If I were you I would stay away from that site and go to better dating sites. Good luck x

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    1. Thanks that is very much the impression I have got from it too so haven't checked it in a while!

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  3. I tried plenty of fish years ago and find it to be full of creeps, so good call on hiding! Congrats on the weight loss too!

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    1. Haha maybe I should have researched before joining. Thank you!

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  4. I can only imagine how scary this world of dating now is.
    Maybe go with the mindset of having fun, a night out and a meal with a potential new friend...what comes from there...time will tell. X

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    1. That is exactly what I will do. Just need to actually get talking to someone first haha!

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  5. I signed up to POF years ago. Ended up with a stalker but a friend of mine met her husband from there and another is in a longterm relationship so I suppose it's weeding out the dead weight. Dating has definitely changed. I've also done Tinder but it doesn't beat just going out and seeing someone to approach them (I'm forward lol) or vice versa..being a single mum I can see it being hard but if someone likes you, they'll accept your children too x

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    1. Yes I think I need to get out more. Gives me an extra excuse to spend more time with friends! Thanks x

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  6. As someone who is dipping her toes into the dating pool I can also confirm that its a excuse my French f**king jungle out there! Well done you though, shared!

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    1. It absolutely is! Have just read your speed dating post! If anything at least it gives us some fun lighthearted content! Thank you x

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  7. I've never had any experience of this i'm afraid. But that last paragraph makes me happy. Atleast being single means you get to focus more on yourself :)

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    1. Thank you. Definitely, it is nice being able to look after myself and enjoy the little things x

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  8. its really great you are loving having ur own space and taking better care of urself, things we so many times neglect when in a relationship!

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    1. Yes definitely. I think the more unhappy you are, the more you take it out on yourself. I am enjoying taking extra care of myself x

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  9. So glad you're enjoying your change! Dating is hard anyway but dating with kids has to be extra tricky. Good on you for getting out there!

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    1. Thank you! Hoping the extra hard work means I will have something awesome coming my way!

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  10. Great post! It's good that you are finding time to be you! You are such a lovely lady and I'm sure Mr right is out there somewhere and you will find him. Until then, carry on enjoyed your social life with your friends! We all love you!❤

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  11. I am a single mum of four and have tried Pof and Tinder - both with no success. I think I actually prefer being on my own! Kaz x

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