Wentworth Miller and THAT Internet Meme11:30:00
With the recent shameful bullying photo meme of Wentworth Miller and his perfectly honest reaction published on Facebook trending almost everywhere, I haven't stopped thinking about what he said. I am a big fan of Wentworth Miller anyway, with Prison Break, The Flash and Legends of Tomorrow being amongst my favourite shows and I admire his brilliant acting skills in all three. Right now though I couldn't possibly love him any more. The way he talks about his struggles with depression and suicidal thoughts shows he is just human like the rest of us. The exception being that he is a human that genuinely cares about others and shares his struggles so that others, especially his fans, can see that even the people we look up to and idolise can feel just like the rest of us.
When he was at his lowest, he took solace in comfort eating. I can totally relate to this as it is exactly what I do. Some people turn to drugs, alcohol or food. Whatever makes us feel like we have a bit of joy even if it is for very brief moments. Mental Health problems are like a poisonous disease with many different strains that destroy you from the inside out. Whether you realise or not, someone around you will be suffering in one way or another. They may be open and honest about their struggles or they may hide it, in fact they may not even realise themselves yet. One thing most of us who do suffer have in common is that we have a tendency to self sabotage. We punish ourselves or our bodies because we feel damaged and think we deserve it.
Looking at that meme makes me feel so sad. That picture of him in his red t-shirt with a smile on his face, despite the struggle of fighting probably weighing him down. It was probably a very rare moment in that time where he felt happy and free, walking along in the fresh air with a friend. In reality it is a beautiful photo which was then used to body shame him for 'letting himself go'. Back when he starred in Prison Break he must have trained a lot to look the way he did, but that was a character. Many actors and actresses put on weight, lose weight, build up muscles etc. to get into character.
The way the media body shames men and women is disgusting. No wonder there is such an increase in the amount of people with depression and anxiety when we live in a world where people are judged for their looks and personality traits in magazines and newspapers daily. You lose a lot of weight you must be anorexic or on drugs. You put on weight and you have let yourself go and are obviously a complete slob.
One quote from his post really hit me 'Like a dandelion up through the pavement, I persist'. Because sometimes this is all we can do and having that attitude to carry on requires more strength than anything. If you persist you will eventually win.
'An arrow can only be shot by pulling it backward. When life is dragging you back with difficulties, it means it's going to launch you into something great.'
I have so much respect for Wentworth. He is a beautiful human being and his words will mean a lot to so many people. I am glad that he kept going and is still with us today and I hope that one good thing will come out of all this, that more people become aware of the stigma behind Mental Health and that those suffering find the courage to ask for help!