Girls Can Be Superheroes Too!08:00:00
So a few weeks ago Gracie had her end of Nursery class party. The children were told to wear whatever they like whether it be fancy dress, party clothes, summer clothes etc. Gracie was so excited and asked if she could get a new costume as she has recently grown out of a few of hers. We looked in both Tesco and Asda, she saw none she liked in Tesco and when we were in Asda she declared she would really like a new Iron Man costume. Typically they didn't have her size and we didn't have time to shop around. She looked at all the 'boys' and 'girls' costumes but really didn't want to be a princess she wanted to be a superhero. That was fine with me. Last time they had a dressing up day she wore her Thor costume happily. She decided on a Captain America costume complete with mask and shield and was thrilled with her choice.
Anyone who knows Gracie will know she has always had a love for superheroes. She loves all the Avengers movies and has the action figures and she has recently fell in love with Star Wars, just as I did as a child, and we have been watching the movies as part of our family movie nights. Her favourite of all the superheroes is Captain America.
So Gracie went to her party, beaming as the adults told her how good she looked on her way in, she was one of only a few in fancy dress but didn't mind. When I arrived to pick her up she was miserable, trying to tell us what she did at her party but was getting upset, then she told me that some girls in school had been teasing her and telling her she can't wear 'boys' costumes. I had a word with her and told her that if she likes them that it is ok, she is allowed to like different things and that it doesn't matter what anyone else says.
I thought it had sunk in until we were shopping for teacher presents a few days before the end of term and she suddenly said 'I don't like Star Wars any more. I like girl movies'. Now this was strange. She has always liked a mix of things, she also adores My Little Pony and happily plays with all her ponies and her superheroes without batting an eyelid so for her to come out with something like that was really off. I asked her what was wrong and she told me she doesn't want the children to laugh at her any more and that she needs to just watch girl movies.
This made me so sad as I have always wanted my children to be happy and I embrace everything that is different about them. Although there were only a few more days left at school I decided to speak to one of her teachers and explain what I knew from what Gracie had said to see if they could talk to her and give her a little confidence boost or have a word with all the children about respecting each others choices of what they like. The teacher was so supportive and immediately told Gracie she should go to her if anyone says anything unkind and gave her a cuddle and told her how much she had loved Gracie's costume. I am not sure if or what was said afterwards but Gracie came out of school much happier and declared she wants to watch Captain America next movie night!
I am really hoping that this is the end of the issue for Gracie. It doesn't bother me what she is interested in, all I want is for her to be happy and to be able to embrace whatever it is she loves. Right now it is superheroes and My Little Pony but whatever else she gets into in the future is up to her and I hope that she makes all these decisions herself.
For now she is my beautiful little superhero!