You know your baby

Tuesday, 11 June 2013

Today we had Zach's 9-12 month development review at our local health clinic. I was really looking forward to going and talking about all the great things he had been learning and to be told how well he is developing.

Well this is not how it went. Instead I sat for 20 minutes listening to a lady tell me how my baby is naughty because ALL babies apparantly sleep 12 hours a night and because he is still having a bottle in the night and sometimes going up to bed around 10pm with us, he is naughty and just attention seeking. I was told that after six months milk isn't important anymore so he shouldn't be drinking the five bottles he still has a day and that I should fill him up all day with dinners and puddings and refuse him milk and water down his night-time feed so he doesn't like it and learns to go without.

Now what has made me angry is that some parents might come out of one of these reviews thinking that they are awful parents and are not doing anything right. I'm a firm believer that every mum knows their own baby and I know my son more than anyone else. He is 8 months old and has a bowl of baby porridge for breakfast followed by a bottle of his milk, he has a vegetable or meat based puree for dinner followed by a fruit puree which is usually followed an hour or so later by another bottle of milk, he then has another bottle 4-5 hours later with a bit of our food to chew on such as chips, vegetables etc, he then has a bottle before bed and one in the early hours. He also has a few small snacks in the day like rice cakes or biscuits etc.

Anyone that has read my blog before or even read my (about us) section will know that Zach was a big baby so he has had a large appetite since he was born. I personally think he has more than enough non milk based food daily especially for an eight month old and I don't mind giving him a bottle of milk in the night. Also with his dairy intolerance and inability to eat dairy products I know his milk is giving him nutrients he wouldn't otherwise get. He sleeps better with a satisfied tummy and in turn I am also starting to get sleep again now.

I just want to say to all parents reading this, yes take advice from health visitors and baby experts but also just know your own baby. If you feel like you are doing a good job you more than likely are and not all babies are the same, they all have their own sleeping and eating habits. Just find what works for you and your baby and as long as they are happy and healthy that is all that matters. Don't let anyone tell you your parenting skills are not good enough!

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11 comments

  1. I think that there are some outdated Health visitors and babies are not naughty. I( stopped taking MIni to the weightings as I was sick of being told I was feeding him too much as he was large!

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    1. I think at that age you can't overfeed them (well unless you are feeding an under one big macs or whole pizzas(; ) when they are full they turn away from food and nothing wrong with a good chunky baby!

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  2. holy cow, she said those things? What on earth is a naughty baby? sheesh.

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  3. I have only ever had one health visitor who actually talked to me like a person and didn't pressurise me into doing things a certain way. As long as baby is happy and healthy and loved there isn't a problem!!

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  4. I stopped taking my son to the health visitor when he was nine months old. He was sleeping through the night but was (and still is, even age 4) rather skinny. She told me to wake him up at night to feed him! I am glad I didn't listen. You only have to look at my husband's build to know why my son is skinny!

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    1. Yes I don't think they take any personal circumstances into consideration. A child with a naturally skinny parent is very likely to follow suit. If he slept through the night no problem he obviously wasn't starving. Glad you didn't take it to heart

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  5. Good advice. Then they start school, hand them over to the school nurse who starts saying they are obese!

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  6. Very good advice!!
    I have never followed the advice of my health visitor she was an idiot and that's putting it nicely...lol
    We know our children best....Some advice is nice but we know what's best for them...Not some health visitor which see's them once in a while!

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